Comments on: Nervous, no. http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/ Your somewhat daily dose of Shoo. Mon, 07 Jun 2010 13:56:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Angi http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99871 Angi Sat, 20 Oct 2007 02:40:12 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99871 The only advice I have after 8 years of marriage, two kids, two dogs and a mortgage is that if you ever dream that your spouse cheats on you, remember that it is not real life, no matter how angry you were in dreamland. HA! Enjoy your wedding day!! ~Angi, Shoo Reader The only advice I have after 8 years of marriage, two kids, two dogs and a mortgage is that if you ever dream that your spouse cheats on you, remember that it is not real life, no matter how angry you were in dreamland. HA!

Enjoy your wedding day!!

~Angi, Shoo Reader

]]> By: Matt Penning http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99863 Matt Penning Sat, 20 Oct 2007 01:32:17 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99863 29 years and counting here. A quick "my2p" on fair fights - they sometimes get hurtful. Know how to forgive and know it's healing that can bind. Lots o upsondowns - just keep falling in love during them. Make time for that, esp. with kids (someday). As to the wedding, having been at a few, I suggest having a go to person - not a family member - who keeps the flow going - someone who can keep your interests in mind and nicely make things happen. Then make sure you shower them with thanks, and a nice gift for a job well done after. Have a great time at your wedding day. Celebrate like it's 1999. 29 years and counting here. A quick “my2p” on fair fights – they sometimes get hurtful. Know how to forgive and know it’s healing that can bind. Lots o upsondowns – just keep falling in love during them. Make time for that, esp. with kids (someday).

As to the wedding, having been at a few, I suggest having a go to person – not a family member – who keeps the flow going – someone who can keep your interests in mind and nicely make things happen. Then make sure you shower them with thanks, and a nice gift for a job well done after.

Have a great time at your wedding day. Celebrate like it’s 1999.

]]> By: ThirtyWhat http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99770 ThirtyWhat Fri, 19 Oct 2007 15:36:32 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99770 Best of luck to you both ... you seem like amazing people and I'm sure you'll have a long, happy life together. I've been married 11 years ... and I agree 100% with Kristen in the "marriage advice" department. You *will* argue ... it's inevitable. Just be sure that you argue in a way that you can come both back from ... don't call each other names, don't bring up old issues from years ago ... basically argue without trying to *hurt* the other person. Congratulations and have a blast at your wedding!!! Best of luck to you both … you seem like amazing people and I’m sure you’ll have a long, happy life together.

I’ve been married 11 years … and I agree 100% with Kristen in the “marriage advice” department. You *will* argue … it’s inevitable. Just be sure that you argue in a way that you can come both back from … don’t call each other names, don’t bring up old issues from years ago … basically argue without trying to *hurt* the other person.

Congratulations and have a blast at your wedding!!!

]]> By: Nattie http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99752 Nattie Fri, 19 Oct 2007 14:12:50 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99752 Don't get all hammered at the wedding. I hate it when people get all tanked up and ridiculous at their weddings. That's why you invite your crazy bar-friends. Leave that mess up to them. I won't give any other advice cuz the chick (aka, me) who isn't and prolly will never get married, shouldn't be giving ANYONE marriage advice. :) Don’t get all hammered at the wedding. I hate it when people get all tanked up and ridiculous at their weddings.
That’s why you invite your crazy bar-friends. Leave that mess up to them.
I won’t give any other advice cuz the chick (aka, me) who isn’t and prolly will never get married, shouldn’t be giving ANYONE marriage advice. :)

]]> By: gtg http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99719 gtg Fri, 19 Oct 2007 11:01:49 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99719 Honey, as I've already told you in real-life, in response to your question, "Nervous?" You should have said, "How could I possibly be nervous when I'm marrying the love of my life and know that I will be blissfully happy forever." (And imagine that "forever" said like the kid on the Sandlot.) Honey, as I’ve already told you in real-life, in response to your question, “Nervous?” You should have said, “How could I possibly be nervous when I’m marrying the love of my life and know that I will be blissfully happy forever.” (And imagine that “forever” said like the kid on the Sandlot.)

]]> By: Jessie http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99653 Jessie Fri, 19 Oct 2007 05:11:25 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99653 I expect rug cutting before, during and after. Its the only reason I go to weddings where you will be present. I expect rug cutting before, during and after. Its the only reason I go to weddings where you will be present.

]]> By: shoo http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99638 shoo Fri, 19 Oct 2007 03:24:29 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99638 Peter, 10 steps ahead of you with the spreadsheet. I've got addresses, confirmations, surnames - throwing all of it into mail merge. Nerdtastic. Kristen, I guess that means your 100,000 miles or 8 year warranty just expired on Paul. Hope he doesn't break down anytime soon. And yes Sarah will look gorgeous, but come on, stop being so nice to me. :) Henny Penny, We have no idea where we are going on our honey moon, but it will be crazy. Dan, I can cut a rug, but only after the ceremony. I don't want to scare her away. Betsy, Our phone call today counts as your re:comment. Peter,
10 steps ahead of you with the spreadsheet. I’ve got addresses, confirmations, surnames – throwing all of it into mail merge. Nerdtastic.

Kristen,
I guess that means your 100,000 miles or 8 year warranty just expired on Paul. Hope he doesn’t break down anytime soon. And yes Sarah will look gorgeous, but come on, stop being so nice to me. :)

Henny Penny,
We have no idea where we are going on our honey moon, but it will be crazy.

Dan,
I can cut a rug, but only after the ceremony. I don’t want to scare her away.

Betsy,
Our phone call today counts as your re:comment.

]]> By: Peter http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99637 Peter Fri, 19 Oct 2007 03:11:09 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99637 I used our wedding as an excuse to create an Excel spreadsheet that tracked the RSVPs. As they came in, I had columns for # attending, not attending or just attending the reception that automatically crossed out those not basking in the joy and computed a total attending/not attending at the top along with percentage attending/not attending vs RSVPs received and total RSVPs. Weddings can be a prime opportunity to write awesome spreadsheets. On a more normal note, everything flies by so quickly and most things you worry about fall into place quite easily. If both of you have good, reliable families, there's nothing really to be concerned with - just enjoy it. The build up to the wedding can be almost as enjoyable as the day itself (*almost* as enjoyable.) I used our wedding as an excuse to create an Excel spreadsheet that tracked the RSVPs. As they came in, I had columns for # attending, not attending or just attending the reception that automatically crossed out those not basking in the joy and computed a total attending/not attending at the top along with percentage attending/not attending vs RSVPs received and total RSVPs.

Weddings can be a prime opportunity to write awesome spreadsheets.

On a more normal note, everything flies by so quickly and most things you worry about fall into place quite easily. If both of you have good, reliable families, there’s nothing really to be concerned with – just enjoy it. The build up to the wedding can be almost as enjoyable as the day itself (*almost* as enjoyable.)

]]> By: Henny Penny http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99628 Henny Penny Fri, 19 Oct 2007 02:10:40 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99628 Have some wild n crazy fun on your honeymoon, whatever and where ever it may be. Have some wild n crazy fun on your honeymoon, whatever and where ever it may be.

]]> By: Kristen http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/comment-page-1/#comment-99627 Kristen Fri, 19 Oct 2007 02:06:02 +0000 http://www.gotshoo.com/wordpress/2007/10/18/nervous-no/#comment-99627 Paul and I just had our 8 year anniversary so I'll tell you my best "been married 8 years" advice. You will fight-it's how you fight that matters. Compliment more than you criticize. You guys are really really cute. sara-you are knock out gorgeous-can't wait to see you on your wedding day. Chris-you're quite handsome yourself. Marriage is really awesome. Paul and I just had our 8 year anniversary so I’ll tell you my best “been married 8 years” advice. You will fight-it’s how you fight that matters. Compliment more than you criticize. You guys are really really cute. sara-you are knock out gorgeous-can’t wait to see you on your wedding day. Chris-you’re quite handsome yourself. Marriage is really awesome.

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