So the big day is not far away, the question I hear from everyone, “Are you nervous?” How can anyone be nervous for a huge celebration with family and friends, an event that no one is sure too forget about anytime soon? That question is usually followed by some helpful marital advice like buy it now or you’ll never get it [iphone].
If I was even a little bit nervous, it would be about the guest list and the flow of events for the day. Creating ‘the list’ is about the hardest thing to do for a wedding. Who’s going to bring a date? Who’s not coming? Who’s going to disown us? One can only hope everyone understands that if it was possible to invite every person they’ve come in contact with throughout life, they would.
It’s postage that is the real killer, not the dinner. We’re getting the super-value-wedding pack from KFC. We got a coupon.
A lot of the day, if not the whole marriage, will be based on the weather. It will be an outside wedding so it’s all in God’s hands. I don’t trust the Gus, but I am prediciting an unseasonably warm, thank you global warming, colorful fall day and an even brighter and happier marriage. Carbon offsets can be bought at reception.
Nervous, no. Done hitch’d up, yes!
Question to the Gotshoo audience: What marriage advice do you have for a Shoo and a GTG? (I’ve already been told that this is “our” blog.)
PS: Yes, I know I setup a wedding blog and we put like squat out there, but when you ask your fiancee to write something and she has 60 essays to grade, it kind of gets prioritize to somewhere else.
i am glad you’re not nervous. but i am totally excited for another east side queens reunion.
yay weddings!
My marriage advice to you? I hope you dance. Lee Ann Womack also hopes you’ll dance. That settles then, you’ll dance.
Paul and I just had our 8 year anniversary so I’ll tell you my best “been married 8 years” advice. You will fight-it’s how you fight that matters. Compliment more than you criticize. You guys are really really cute. sara-you are knock out gorgeous-can’t wait to see you on your wedding day. Chris-you’re quite handsome yourself. Marriage is really awesome.
Have some wild n crazy fun on your honeymoon, whatever and where ever it may be.
I used our wedding as an excuse to create an Excel spreadsheet that tracked the RSVPs. As they came in, I had columns for # attending, not attending or just attending the reception that automatically crossed out those not basking in the joy and computed a total attending/not attending at the top along with percentage attending/not attending vs RSVPs received and total RSVPs.
Weddings can be a prime opportunity to write awesome spreadsheets.
On a more normal note, everything flies by so quickly and most things you worry about fall into place quite easily. If both of you have good, reliable families, there’s nothing really to be concerned with - just enjoy it. The build up to the wedding can be almost as enjoyable as the day itself (*almost* as enjoyable.)
Peter,
10 steps ahead of you with the spreadsheet. I’ve got addresses, confirmations, surnames - throwing all of it into mail merge. Nerdtastic.
Kristen,
I guess that means your 100,000 miles or 8 year warranty just expired on Paul. Hope he doesn’t break down anytime soon. And yes Sarah will look gorgeous, but come on, stop being so nice to me.
Henny Penny,
We have no idea where we are going on our honey moon, but it will be crazy.
Dan,
I can cut a rug, but only after the ceremony. I don’t want to scare her away.
Betsy,
Our phone call today counts as your re:comment.
I expect rug cutting before, during and after. Its the only reason I go to weddings where you will be present.
Honey, as I’ve already told you in real-life, in response to your question, “Nervous?” You should have said, “How could I possibly be nervous when I’m marrying the love of my life and know that I will be blissfully happy forever.” (And imagine that “forever” said like the kid on the Sandlot.)
Don’t get all hammered at the wedding. I hate it when people get all tanked up and ridiculous at their weddings.
That’s why you invite your crazy bar-friends. Leave that mess up to them.
I won’t give any other advice cuz the chick (aka, me) who isn’t and prolly will never get married, shouldn’t be giving ANYONE marriage advice.
Best of luck to you both … you seem like amazing people and I’m sure you’ll have a long, happy life together.
I’ve been married 11 years … and I agree 100% with Kristen in the “marriage advice” department. You *will* argue … it’s inevitable. Just be sure that you argue in a way that you can come both back from … don’t call each other names, don’t bring up old issues from years ago … basically argue without trying to *hurt* the other person.
Congratulations and have a blast at your wedding!!!
29 years and counting here. A quick “my2p” on fair fights - they sometimes get hurtful. Know how to forgive and know it’s healing that can bind. Lots o upsondowns - just keep falling in love during them. Make time for that, esp. with kids (someday).
As to the wedding, having been at a few, I suggest having a go to person - not a family member - who keeps the flow going - someone who can keep your interests in mind and nicely make things happen. Then make sure you shower them with thanks, and a nice gift for a job well done after.
Have a great time at your wedding day. Celebrate like it’s 1999.
The only advice I have after 8 years of marriage, two kids, two dogs and a mortgage is that if you ever dream that your spouse cheats on you, remember that it is not real life, no matter how angry you were in dreamland. HA!
Enjoy your wedding day!!
~Angi, Shoo Reader